We all look at people and judge them by the way they look. It’s a sad fact, but we all do it.
Some people are able to look discreetly and not say a thing. Some people are genuinely so concerned, shocked or horrified that they need to say something, anything, maybe they’re nervous and don’t know what to say, or concerned for your health.
Anyway next time someone says, “What’s wrong with your skin? WOW you’re sunburnt! Have you been to the doctor about that awful rash?”, here are a few replies you could use…
“Yes, I’ve caught the sun again… ha ha ha. It was pretty hot actually and burnt my hands. Won’t be trying that again. Hot potato that old sun.”
“Oh, no, this is a new make-up range I’m trying out, it’s called red and rosy. What do you think? Suit me?”
“What have I done to my skin? Oh, this is normal. Actually it’s really good at the moment thanks.”
“Have I been to the doctors? You know I might just try that. It never occured to me to do that. Thanks so much!”
“Thanks for being concerned, my skin is bad, it’s just eczema/psoriasis/allergy rash and I am trying really hard to ignore it so can we change the subject?”
“Well I could wear makeup to cover up my unsightly skin so you wouldn’t have to be offended by having to look at me, but the makeup irritates my skin further. It shouldn’t matter how I look.”
“Oh does my skin look dry? Well that’s because it is! Like the sahara desert my skin.”
“My skin looks bad? Yeah just call me elephant neck/rhino skin/aligator legs!”
“Oh well, I shouldn’t say this too loudly but I really ought be in isolation. This is a tropical rash, highly allergic and flesh eating bacteria. But don’t worry, you’ll be fine as long as you don’t touch it…”
“Really? Is it showing? Right. Thanks for the warning. Sometimes I don’t spot it early enough and it can be very embarassing. It’s a rare condition. Must dash before the boils and pustules erupt.”
“Oh it looks bad does it? Well that’s probably because you added some milk/butter/celery/wheat (delete as appropriat) to last night meal that I’m allergic to…THIS is what happens”
“Do I moisturise enough? Well, there are never enough hours in the day, so please excuse me while I go and fit in another moisturising session.”
Most of all, smile, stay positive and remember, they are just words. Choose to take them at face value and don’t get too upset. People care and want to help so try to be kind, gracious and smile it off, even though inside you might be screaming, “IT HURTS SO MUCH DAMMIT, IT IS ALL I COULD DO TO LEAVE THE HOUSE TODAY SO SHUT UP!”
I would like to add a proviso here that my close friends and family should not feel scared about offering me support, a cuddle or asking how I am. I need those cuddles and warm words. They help me through. And if you are a fellow sufferer then I’m always up for a skin/allergy moan.
If you know me well then it’s quite alright to comment, especially if my skin is looking good!
It’s the strangers, brief acquaintances, friends of friends or passers by who should take note!
It’s important to stay positive, leant to accept what you’ve got, work with it and learn your triggers and be kind to yourself. But most of all, keep smiling!
Anyone else got any good replies for stupid eczema, psoriasis, allergy rash comments?